Making Sense of Your Man

In the early years of my marriage I would walked into my home at the end of a rough day with the weight of the world still draped over me. I could not express to this beautiful woman who had been waiting for me the frustrations I was feeling from carrying the weight of principalities on my shoulders. My lack of pre or present marital instructions pushed me to rely on my troglodyte instincts. Protect and guard my emotions. Most women (and men) knowingly or unknowingly carry the burden of expectations based on past relationship (good or bad) with the opposite sex into the next relationship. Everybody has a “carry-on” bag they bring into each relationship. What is stuffed in that bag can govern how we set boundaries and lanes in our relationships.

Can a woman really make sense of the man she loves? A woman will not be able to make sense of her man or understand his quirky ways until he is able to open up to her his “treasure chest” of true thoughts and emotions. You can be sure he will always tell you how he can “do great things in this world” or “how well he got it going on.” You will never really know him until he can tell you how he truly feels when he discovers it may take a while to do great things. Can you wait? Then you discover those great things may only be good things, or that he is still working on getting it going on cause he really “ain’t” got it going on. In all this can you accept that in his treasure chest he may be holding a fear of failing in your eyes and the worlds? Can you support his dreams even if they are not as clear to you as they are to him? Can you respect and love him while still clutching your “carry-on” or can you put it in God’s overhead bin?

What a man really wants the woman in his life to know is how much he really loves her and to what heights he will go to show it. He only needs to know that it is safe to let you see the man that God has designed for you so he can discontinue the use of the camouflaged version he has been presenting for fear of being less than you may have wanted or expected. If you can make sense of this, you will have made sense of the man you love.

Proverbs 31:10-11
Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies. The heart of her husband safely trusts her; So he will have no lack of gain.
Lord God my Father thank you for the gift that you have given me. Allow me to love, guide and protect her and the union that you have ordained. Second to you she is my best friend and confidant. I will forever lift up our relationship to you in thanksgiving and praise for you chose this woman for this man.
Amen