Better Than a Dream

The water was crystal clear, cool but not cold. The white sand felt good on our toes. We walked the length of the beach watching the Caribbean sunset out to sea. It was moments like this that we dreamed about when our love was young. You moved closer to me and our hearts spoke words we did not need to say but needed to hear. It felt so good just to be near you. "I couldn’t wait to wake up." I realized that our reality was even better than this dream. Happy Birthday Sweetheart. I love you and cherish the day God released you from heaven... just for me. Glad the tomb is empty…

We Don't Get Out Much

We don't get out much... But when we do... You see we don't need a break from each other or need our "own space". I don't know if what we have is an "ordinary love" or not. What we do know is it has to be more than just the words of love we express or the words I write. We want it to be who we are. Love you sweetheart! Glad the tomb is empty.

Sweetheart Month

March is our "sweetheart" month. I appreciate the season we are in. I love the life I have with Janet. Like most "good things" it was built through some deep valley adventures. We appreciate the encouragement from friends and family because we need it as much as newlyweds do. Whenever there are two or more distinct minds in one space (constantly) there will be some type of friction. The deciding factor is that God gave us hearts that beat for one another. We share the one love that He has presented us with (each other). Can He be wrong? To be honest, it was not easy getting to this season. Just like our date night strolls, one of us may have to wait on the other. You don't always mature at the same time or with the same intensity, but you have to continue to walk towards the same prize in Christ Jesus together. Yeah, "life ain't always been no crystal staircase". There were stairs with tacks and some stairs had no carpet. Some landings had cracked windows where the air blew cold. We been through some stuff and we don't look like what we been through. Every household goes through "something" ... Take His word to heart. "Your latter will be greater" Job 8:7. Janet and I have a passion for marriages, but we would be remiss by not revealing how we got here. We learned to trust in His plan and not our own... I thank God that He thought enough of me to trust me with her heart. March, our sweetie month is over, but I'll be loving and chasing (stalking) her until He calls me home... B lovin me some Janet... Glad The Tomb Is Empty

Quit Boy

I walked past the bedroom the other day and heard you talking on the phone. I obviously wasn't a part of the conversation but the soft sultry tone of your voice made me forget where I was going. I couldn’t wait for you to hang up. So I didn’t. “Quit boy. Girl, you know how Lance is. Well, maybe you don’t. He a mess. QUIT BOY. Girl let me call you back… tomorrow.” Even the dark can't hide your light and the beauty within. I Love you sweetheart! Glad the tomb is empty.

Being a Fixer

Most folk will probably agree that men believe we are fixers. Even my granddaughter will be quick to tell you "G-Da can fix anything." I have learned that most times I first need to listen to Janet recap her day or some random situation she has encountered. I will admit I struggle as I wait for permission to put some testosterone on it. This is where God has shown me how to be less of a fixer and more of a healer. I can’t fix every problem but I can help to heal the wound caused by it. I listen for the pain or frustration in her voice and watch her body language. I need to absorb and dilute that frustration with my strength and peace. Janet needs to feel my empathy and love. She does not need sympathy or a war cry to solve her “problem”. Believe me, this sister can wage her own wars. I married a cute (long legged) cleaver girl that has matured into a dynamically powerful, and incredibly beautiful mature woman. My role is to spread my wings of love and cover her through it all. My words of comfort and my embrace heal her mind and spirit. She is now back on track to be the woman that God has intended her to be. God has given me more power to heal than fix. I love you sweetheart! Glad the tomb is empty!

Celebrate Family

I had plans for February. I wanted to celebrate some brothers in my life. I wanted to continue my quest to show Janet how much I loved and cherished her. I wanted to solidify my friendships and stay on this creative train of reading, writing and emptying this vessel of random but connected thoughts. I committed to these things. Then God. Then God. Then God introduced me to my mortality. He asked me to minister to the families of folks He called home. He then called members of my family, Monica Wilson-Figueroa and Betty Green. I drifted from the weight of their loss. According to His purpose, their purpose on the “third rock” from the sun was completed. It is hard to deal with the physical loss, but as long as there is a story to tell about them, a moment of joy that springs from your gut when you think of them then they will never truly be gone. I want to take a moment to express my undying love for my daughters. God trusted Janet and me with them and we have kinda grown attached to them. Never let a day go by without thanking God for the blessings that He has entrusted you with. Never let a day go by without speaking the words “I love you” to them. You never know when His purpose in them will be fulfilled. So, I just want to publicly tell my daughters and my forever love how much I really love you and am so very proud of you. Glad the tomb is empty.

Be A Woman First!

When we first got married, the struggle was real. We had a new life together. We became new people to each other. We did not understand our newly discovered roles as husband and wife. That mom and dad thing had us rolling on instincts to love and protect the “cubs”. There were bare cupboards and dim lights, sometimes long walks to the bus stop when the “grey ghost” was on blocks. We marched our way through the years determined to meet needs. You made sacrifices for the cause and made choices that changed and sometimes corrected our course. You did these things without provocation from me. You are consistent in your desire to see “Peeler People” succeed. I know there is the house, job, obligations, and all things consistently vying for space in your world. In the midst of all this, I only have one need and desire and that is for you to be a woman first! Do not deny or suppress the grace and beauty personified in ways that make me blush from the inside out. I Love You,

Sweetheart! I could not find a card to speak for me. I hope this works. Happy Valentine’s Day!

“Many waters cannot quench love; rivers cannot sweep it away. If one were to give all the wealth of one’s house for love, it would be utterly scorned.” Song of Solomon 8:7